Discounting the word "NO"
Discounting the word "No" is a common tactic used on women. When you allow someone to cross that boundary, you are also telling them they'll be able to push past others as well.
When you say no, say it with confidence, and only ONCE. Anything more is perceived as a negotiation, a means to an end. "NO is a complete sentence" and can stand alone. If they continue to press then repeat "I SAID NO!"
There is no need to explain, or soften your words. That only opens their path towards control.
"No” is a word that must never be negotiated, because the person who chooses not to hear it is trying to control you.” ― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence.
Posted on Wed, December 16, 2015
by Jessi Cargill